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If you ask most people whether they would like to be a winner or loser in life, I’m sure they’ll say winner. But you have to wonder, “What does it mean to win in life?” For example, my favorite game of basketball declares the winner as the team with the most points at the end of the game. On a sidenote, Vince Lombardi said, “The Green Bay Packers never lost a football game. They just ran out of time.” LOL.

But it’s not easy to figure out what it means to win in the game of life. And it’s because people have different ways of defining it. I know a lot of people who consider the accumulation of money or material posessions as winning. My collegues may agree that winning means living the longest. Athletes could say it’s to have their body in tip-top shape. I believe a part of it has to do with having a happy family and healthy relationships.

And you know what? They all can be right. So what we need to do is look at the bigger picture. Let’s think about it differently. Generally, people think of winning as the over-achievement in a particular, chosen area. But change that. Instead of focusing on one aspect to overachieve, try succeeding in maintaining balanced achievements in numerous areas.

In order to truly win and be a success, is not to overachieve in 1 area, but to maintain balanced achievement in all areas of our lives.

Personally, I know I did well balancing my life in high school because I had good grades, officer of a club, served in student government, lettered in track and field, volunteered, and many other areas. In undergrad, I studied, held a job, had a wonderful girlfriend, and lead two car clubs. In grad school, I fell apart. My undergrad girlfriend and I went separate ways, I had trouble fitting in with the car clubs here, school was ultra-competitive, and I kept changing jobs because I wasn’t satisfied. But in the end, my overachievement was finishing as a Doctor.

You can see the imbalance in my life in grad school. Could ask yourself, are you a success if you earn millions of dollars but lose your family along the way? Are you a success if you have nationwide fame but have no friends? Or course not! In fact, you may live the most pitiful of all lives.

You can become a winner. It takes just 3 steps and just a couple of minutes to learn it. Then it becomes a part of you. To learn the 3 steps of becoming a winner for $0.99, click here.

Dr J

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1) Listen and communicate. Oftentimes, when we’re quiet and supposed to be listening, we’re thinking about what we’re going to say next, instead of listening. Communication is especially important during the hardest times of life. Finals week was always difficult, as both parties were focused on studies instead of each other. But if you learn to listen and communicate, you can work through just about everything.
It’s also good to note that you need to be listening on all levels. Verbal is just one, body language is another. Learn their quirks, their likes and dislikes. Discover how best to please them. Ask if you can’t figure it out! Once you know what turns them on, be sure to do it!
2) Schedule time to be together. What’s 1 thing that you and your companion must do everyday? That’s the thing to do together. For us, it was meals, especially dinner. We did our best to have dinner together every night. It’s a time to download and share what happened throughout the day, and express your thoughts and feelings. Dinner’s a casual thing, takes as long as you need, and without pressure. You can think of it as renewing the relationship. In my family, Dad always said ‘Sunday is Family Day’. It was the only day he didn’t work. As a family we’d do something. Until our lives got busier, then it turned into ‘Everybody’s gotta be home for dinner’.
3) Give your mate some priority. I firmly believe you should put yourself first, but whenever possible, put them first! They’ll thank you. It’s better to give than receive, right? And typically, you’ll received exponentially compared to what you give. If you differ in opinion, such as politics or what to eat or where to go, try to understand your mate, address their concern, and then put in your thoughts.
4) Lastly, forgive. I used to say ‘I don’t accept apologies. I’ll see it in the way you act and know if you mean it or not.” I took this hard stance all the way till grad school, and it worked for me, but made enemies. In theory, it works. But in reality, people need affirmation. People are not perfect, including me. It’s ok to mess up, so forgive them. It’s one of the big lessons in Buddhism and Christianity too. But don’t be a pushover either!!!

Good luck with your Valentines!

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